Is it time for you to be more Selfish?


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Is it time for you to be more Selfish?

No one wants to be called selfish, It doesn’t feel good to be called it, it doesn’t feel good to call others SELFISH but what does it really mean, and can it ever be a good thing?
Have you been called selfish or worst called yourself selfish for canceling event plans because you just don’t want to, arrangements, not answering your phone, not responding quickly enough to emails or tried to come up with justifications when the truth is, you just wanted some time for yourself.
We all know the feeling, the feeling of being let down and we don’t want others to experience this because of us but we will, often without us knowing.
The thing is, no matter what names we are called, sometimes it’s ESSENTIAL for us to be SELFISH in Business and Life.
Is it Selfishness or Self Love?
When I refer to being Selfish, what I’m really talking about is self-love.
So many of us, especially us creatives who love to create and serve, have a deep-rooted belief that it is NOBAL to sacrifice ourselves, our peace, our time for others, but it’s not!
What you’re doing is robbing yourself of precious time and energy while also robbing yourself and the other person of the Love and attention deserved – people always feel when your not present.  It’s not fair.
Why is it seen as a Negative thing to be Selfish?
The meaning
selfish
ˈsɛlfɪʃ/
adjective
  1. (of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.
    “I joined them for selfish reasons”
    synonyms:
    egocentric, egotistic, egotistical, egomaniacal, self-centred, self-regarding, self-absorbed, self-obsessed, self-seeking, self-serving, wrapped up in oneself, inward-looking, introverted, self-loving; More
The definition of selfish has many words, synonyms that most of us don’t want to be called? but whats wrong with being egotistical or self-centered?
 

Question?

  • How could being egotistical serve you?
  • How could being Self-loving help you serve your customers?
  • How could being Self-seeking help you connect with your audience?
The Power in Selfishness
Being Selfish has the power to serve you and others, it’s like when you’re on a plane and they say ‘In case of emergencies put your gas mask on first)
That’s you taking care of yourself first so you then have the capacity and energy to take care of others if you choose to.
So here are 4 ways that you can become more selfish
  1. Refuse to give your attention to anyone or anything before at least 5-10 minutes of meditation. Don’t need to sit on a mat, could be quiet thinking while laying in bed.
  2. Cancel 3 things from your diary that feel you SHOULD do and replace them with things you’d LOVE to do
  3. Switch your phone off for 5 hours let those close to you know so they don’t panic
  4. Schedule times during the day when you turn your notifications off – give yourself a break
How could being more selfish support you in business & Life?
 please comment and share!
Thanks for reading
Tracy xx
  • Great post. Good self care is so important and not selfish it all, even though it can feel that way at times. Thanks for the reminder 🙂

    • mstracydurrant

      Thanks for reading Monica, yes self-care is very important 🙂